tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27711718311284538422024-03-12T17:28:08.481-07:00This is my normalUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-15523194063189631832015-02-26T10:59:00.001-08:002015-02-26T11:11:29.881-08:00Moving Day!So I'm moving! Well, not out of my house (Thank God. The idea of going through every little thing and packing it up makes me dry-heave a bit)... but out of this url.<br />
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About a year ago I felt it was time to step out there and start a blog. Not a Mommy-blog full of milestones and updates (which I had), but a me blog... well, not a ME blog. Nobody wants to read about just me. But a God/Homeschooling/SPD'ing/Learning/Loving/Growing Blog.<br />
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This last year had me learning a lot about myself and about blogging in general. I've spent a lot of time in the last 6 months pinning and reading and learning and webinar-ing ... and now I put on my big girl panties and I'm going out there. In the big wide bloggy world.<br />
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For the next year this will be my job. My no-pay, no-benefits, no-vacation, plenty-of-faith job.<br />
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Scary? Yes.<br />
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Exciting? Yes.<br />
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Am I ready for it? I sure do hope so.<br />
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This means getting a big girl blog, and putting the work into it.<br />
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So for the next few days, which will most likely turn into weeks, I'll be unpacking and setting up house over at the new website. Once I'm settled in I'll have a housewarming and you'll ALL be invited! Keep an eye out for the big announcement... and follow me over there!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-35223201265141888102015-02-13T18:53:00.001-08:002015-02-13T18:53:45.560-08:00Web Browsers<i>A mini post. It started as a Facebook Rant but it was a little too long so now it's a post. But not really a REAL post... so it's a mini post:</i><br />
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<br /><br />After an hour (AN HOUR) of trying to figure out how to set up my "My Verizon" account and losing connection with both the "chat help" and a phone rep I get to my third verizon customer service rep of the evening...Third. I was not happy at this point.<br />
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Me: "I'm not able to register my account. After I give it my account number and zip code it loops back to the home screen of the verizon web page."<br />
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Customer Service: "Hmmm. What web browser are you using?"<br />
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Me: "Chrome"<br />
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Customer Service: "Ok, you're gonna wanna use Explorer to navigate the Verizon webpage. Are you using Explorer?"<br />
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Me: ಠ_ಠ -deep breath- "Yes, I pay an exorbitant amount of money that you will not budge a penny in my favor for your FIOS service that you advertise hits speeds of 500 Mbps to use.... Internet Explorer."<br />
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No I didn't really say that. I screamed it in my head.<br />
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What I really said is "Hold on. I have Firefox."<br />
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First world problems.<br />
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We moved to Upstate New York in the summer of 1992. The winter season to come would be the largest amount of snowfall that the year had seen in decades. The winter of '93. My first snow day turned into a snow WEEK! The apartment complex snow plows had made mounds as tall as our townhouse! We would climb up with our sleds and then go down off of our ROOFS! It was like nothing I had ever seen before or since.<br />
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After I finished high school I went right back into the school system as an ASL interpreter for Oswego County BOCES. Snow Day Bonanza! From November to March at 5 am I would turn on the news and see if I had to work that day.<br />
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Even when I left BOCES to do a "real job" I still watched the crawler across the bottom of the screen every morning. In between cups of coffee and blow drying my hair I'd yell to my husband "Oh, East Syracuse is closed!......There goes Liverpool!......North Syracuse is still just a 2 hour, wait! Nope. Closed!"<br />
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Still, to this day, I check the list on my phone.... borderline obsessively.... when it snows. But it doesn't stop my plans or change my life that day as a stay at home, homeschooling Momma. We play in it but we still school on. But there's an electric excitement in my day knowing... it's a snow day<br />
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Yesterday was our first official "Snow Day" of Kindergarten. I saw it coming on Saturday and I knew I needed to get in on this one, it might be our last of the season. We set up some tentative plans and shared the excitement with the child as it was all hinging on one precious thing... a snow day. The hushed excitement of the words "snow day" as they came out of her mouth let me know she understood.<br />
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That snow days were magical and wonderful and rarely seen... like a unicorn.<br />
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I woke up at 6:30 am and checked the list. Snow. Day. Baby!<br />
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We dropped our school plans and played with public school friends as they celebrated their day off from school. It was a beautiful, chaotic, fantastic, mess.... exactly what childhood needs every once in a while.<br />
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This is what we learned on our day off:<br />
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1- Uno's has free lunches for kids on snow days.<br />
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2- 10 hours of playing = 12+ hours of sleep that night<br />
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3- Friends are wonderful and fun and amazing and we love every moment with them... but Daddy is her favorite to person on the planet to play with.<br />
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4- I'm so blessed to be a stay at home, homeschooling mother of one amazingly awesome little girl.<br />
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I mean, really. I am. Sometimes I just need to remind myself of that.<br />
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As much as I love it and would trade it for nothing in this world, do I see the laundry and the dishes and cleaning and the cooking and the curriculum and the teaching and the reading, writing, mathing.....the repetitive nature of my day-to-day glamourous in any sense of the word? No. Not at all.<br />
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No, in fact last week I got all dolled up for Wednesday morning only to not shower/change/perform-any-personal-hygiene-beyond-brushing-teeth-and-hair again until Friday.... afternoon. Yeah, that's hot. My husband is one lucky man.<br />
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But I have this window. This teeny tiny, no redos or take backs, window to do THIS. And once it's gone it's gone. I can't get it back. There's no redeeming motherhood.<br />
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If we don't stop and see the glory in the, if not moments, the seasons then we're missing His plan, His lessons for our lives.<br />
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My season is Motherhood. Yes, motherhood is forever and I don't think I'll ever sleep as soundly or relax so completely as I did before my child walked the Earth... but This season is for Motherhood. Capital "M".<br />
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This Motherhood season is for building a person. For instilling truths and confidence in who they are as a creation of God. For learning how they're wired and exploring the beauty of their own individuality in a world that desires to put everything and everyone in a tidy box along with the facts and numbers that define them. To show them the world and the beauty in it and the Creator who made it all, just for them and give a soft place to be as they learn how sharp the world can be. To read the the adventures of Winnie the Pooh and Peter Pan and Gerald and Piggie until my throat is sore. To snuggle and play and enjoy the too short season of childhood.<br />
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I say this without an ounce of martyrdom.<br />
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Because one day in 15, 10, 5 years things will change as they have changed from the last 5 years. I am no longer lost in the complete need of one tiny person. As she craves space, I recieve space. My dreams that have been tucked into my heart are being unpacked and considered little by little until I find my next season.<br />
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Spending time with others have gotten there, their season of finding dreams, the childish mentality of "why not me?" creeps up... and in that moment. Before I fall fully into the spiral of disappointment. I stop and look to God and say "Why not me? Why have I not found what you have created me for? Why have I not found the one thing that makes my soul sing? Why has this sense of unfulfillment been the thorn in my side? Why have I never, ever been able to answer the question 'What do you want to be when you grow up?'"<br />
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And as still and as loud as anything I have ever heard He says to me.... for THIS season. I need you HERE in THIS spot for THIS season.<br />
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To be a port in the storm.<br />
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To give structure and flexibility in one motion.<br />
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To make this space a place to restore spirits.<br />
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So here I am, knowing that this is short, what's next is big and beautiful, and that truly there is glory in the day-to-day if I do what I am called to do.<br />
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And that in its own way THAT is glamourous.<br />
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THAT is magical and wonderful and rarely seen... like a unicorn. Or a Snow Day.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-72423119336481921692015-02-04T11:34:00.002-08:002015-02-04T12:25:50.349-08:00That one I couldn't come up with a title for... 11 years ago this little movie came out. I'm sure you've never heard of it. "Mean Girls"? Oh, you have? Well I haven't. It may have come on my radar, but blipped off just as fast as it blipped on. I mean, 11 years ago, I was fresh out of teenager-hood. I was 21 and convinced, as a married woman with a mortgage and two completed car loans between my husband and I, I was fully grown up and shunned anything that teenagers even remotely showed an interest in. (But, unlike today, I was keenly aware what was "in"... Where on Earth did Arrianna Grande come from... and did I even spell that right?!)<br />
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I wasn't interested in the music and laughed at the stupidity of "Don't 'Cha" by "The Pussycat Dolls". Really? I'm supposed to take this seriously. Pussy. Cat. Dolls? Yeah, no.<br />
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I did not get this complete obsession over this book, "Twilight". I mean, sparkly vampires? No. Nope. I mean, this vampire, spends all his time mooning over this mopey girl for why? I just didn't get it. (and still don't. I mean, I know and love many people who are borderline obsessed... I'm. just. not.... but I still love you!)<br />
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I wasn't one for high school comedies. I had seen "American Pie" and I've had enough of that. Thank you very much. Ewww.<br />
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Then time went on, cable was (is) crazy expensive and Netflix became a viable option for our day-to-day entertainment... then God said let there be streaming.<br />
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I found the awesomeness of "30 Rock" and Tina Fey. (and soon after "Parks and Rec" and Amy Poehler) I devoured her show and then her biography (Amy, too). I realized, slowly that I loved them. I loved their power. I loved their confidence. I loved that they played the "boys game" of humor and won. Girls could be funny, I mean REALLY funny. I loved that they could be funny without the trap of exclusively being gross about sex, like so many female comediennes fall into.<br />
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Side note: Sex isn't funny. Sex is awesome, with a bit of hilarity sprinkled in because it's also kinda embarrassing and gross... but really, really it's awesome. Really awesome.... with the.... and the..... yeaaaaahhhh.....<br />
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Wait, what I was saying?..... Oh yeah, "Mean Girls". Tina Fey wrote and had a fairly big role (bigger than I expected) in this movie. Lo and behold, this month it's on Netflix. Streaming.<br />
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Have you seen this movie? No. Ok, go on Netflix and come back. I'll see you in 97 minutes, 92-ish if you don't watch the end credits. No, really go watch it because there's gonna be some new things that enter my vocabulary that you're gonna want some point of reference on. Such as:<br />
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So, what did you think? I know, right?!<br />
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Me too!<br />
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Yep, I'm 15 years out of High School and I completely relate to everything T-Dawg (That's what Tina Fey wants her friends to call her. What-eves. She's so obsessed with me.) wrote in this movie. But one part. One statement stopped me cold:<br />
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<span style="background-color: #fbfbfb; color: #333333; font-family: Verdana, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18.200000762939453px;"><i><u>Cady: "The weird thing about hanging out with Regina was that I could hate her, and at the same time, I still wanted her to like me."</u></i></span><br />
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What the what?<br />
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Does she live in my head? Because sometimes, when I look at a situation that really stresses me out I can call it what it is: this out of balance mentality of making sure the "right" people like me.<br />
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People that have hurt me. That have caused me tears.<br />
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People that scare me. That make me doubt myself and who I am.<br />
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People who intimidate me. That are smarter, thinner, prettier, God-li-er... better... than me.<br />
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People who have left me behind. That were once oh-so-close and now rarely look me in the eye.<br />
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.... and I want them to like me. A LOT.<br />
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I want their affirmation and accolades and friendships... because I'm <strike>a little sick in the head</strike> a people pleaser.<br />
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But it needs to stop... and in the last year or so I've really worked on the concept that I need to LOVE everyone but I don't necessarily need to LIKE everyone.... and if I'm going to be the real me that God made me and make the right decisions for me and my family, not everyone is gonna like ME.... and that's OK. I mean, it's gonna be uncomfortable maybe... but it's OK.<br />
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Because part of leaving High School, growing up, is leaving behind the "frenemies". I have no time for that. I've got a Husband, a Child, a House. Homeschooling, housekeeping, serving, banking, cooking, cleaning, crafting, studying, therapy-ing, LIVING takes up all my time. Should I spend a moment of my extra time obsessing about what random people think of me?<br />
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And when I say random I mean RANDOM.<br />
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Now before any of of my real people friends wonder "Is Jess talking about me? Does she truly hate me?" No. Listen to me.... NO. Because if you're a real people friend I want you in my life. I want to spend time with you and I choose to spend time with you, because I love you. It's not a perfect world and it's not as often as I would like.... but I love you. Is that clear? LOOOOOOVE!<br />
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My ugliest.</div>
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At my angriest, at my most bitter, at my most jealous and full of resentment. </div>
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That He holds me through my cycles of depression and rage. </div>
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That He sits next to me as I sin over and over and over again.... and He holds my red tear-stained face in His nail pierced hands and says 'You're worth it. The suffering and loneliness and pain that I went through. I'd do it all over again for you. Just for you.'</div>
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-73692291480773374642015-01-19T13:30:00.000-08:002015-01-19T15:00:02.852-08:00New YearNow that the glitter has rubbed off of the new year we see the grey plastic mold underneath showing where it's been worn most. The sparkles of what we promised ourselves and others are all over the floor and crushed into the carpet. A reminder of where we fell short every time we catch the shine when the sun hits just right.<br />
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We were meant to be a new person by now. A better person than we were 20 days ago.</div>
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Eating better.</div>
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Organizing better.</div>
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Cleaning better.</div>
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Teaching better.</div>
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Mothering better.</div>
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Wife-ing better.</div>
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Praying better.</div>
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Learning better.</div>
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Following better.</div>
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Stewarding better.</div>
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Loving better.</div>
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But here we are. The same person we've been all along. Because re-wiring a human takes a lot of work.... and that's OK.<br />
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So we adopt words, phrases, verses to get us through. To help keep us on track. I've come across many that my friends have shared and I love learning a little more about them as they put ownership on what they need most this year. </div>
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When I truly look at all that needs to change in my little bubble, all I need to improve on, it's an enormous task. And here, my friends, here is where I found my resolution. My phrase. My ownership.<br />
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That's right, eating elephants.<br />
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The funny part about all this is that the word "elephants" is my default noun. Anytime I need to buy myself a few minutes with my child I throw out "elephants".<br />
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"Mommy, what are we having for dinner?"<br />
<i>Elephant burritos.</i><br />
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"Where are we going?"<br />
<i>To see the elephants.</i><br />
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"Can we go swim today?"<br />
<i>No, too many elephants in the pool.</i><br />
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"Are we there yet?"<br />
<i>There's elephants in the road slowing down traffic.</i><br />
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I know I've heard this phrase before and shrugged it off as a bad joke. But when you sit on it. Think of the reality of it there's so much truth there. When an insurmountable task is ahead of you it can feel like an elephant. And if you really needed to eat one the only way to get it done? One bite at a time.<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-60469631054764363742014-12-12T09:24:00.000-08:002014-12-12T09:48:08.418-08:00Paved with good intentions.I love Christmas. <br />
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I'm the dork blaring the Christmas Music at the stoplight on November 2nd.<br />
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I'm the one that walks around Hobby Lobby in October wistfully dreaming of snow as I walk up and down the aisles of ribbon and greenery.<br />
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I'm the one in Toys-R-Us filling the shopping cart in September (OK, August) for my Christmas Present layaway.<br />
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I love it.<br />
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I love the tree, the nativity, the garlands, the stockings, the cookies, the advent calenders, the tree lightings, the cards, the parades, the centerpieces, the wreaths, the lights, the snow, the ornaments, the specials, the parties, the food, the wrapping, the Nutcracker Ballet...<br />
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But I'm sorry. I have to stop.<br />
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I'm tapping out.<br />
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I want to do the <a href="http://www.coffeecupsandcrayons.com/random-acts-christmas-kindness-printable-advent-calendar/" target="_blank">Random Acts of Kindness calendar</a>, <a href="http://blog.jamesandjuliepaquette.com/2011/12/02/shepherds-pouches/" target="_blank">Shepard's Pouches</a>, and yes... even though it's kinda-sorta creepy and we don't do Santa..... I do want to do <a href="http://www.iheartnaptime.net/elf-shelf-ideas/" target="_blank">Elf on the Shelf</a>, but I'd end up doing <a href="http://pleasegivepeasachance.blogspot.com/2012/11/three-wise-men-elf-and-angel.html" target="_blank">Wandering Wisemen</a>.<br />
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But I can't.<br />
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Because it's going to. kill. me.<br />
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Well, maybe not kill me. No, I'll most likely live to see the new year in... But it's going to kill my soul. The joy that comes with this special time of year.<br />
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You know, that joy our children have when they see a 40 foot Christmas tree light up for the first time that season. Or when they find the perfect tree at the tree farm and pull it out of the forest all on their own. Or when they decorate sugar cookies and "sneak" a few M&Ms between each plop of icing.<br />
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They're happy little balls of joy. <br />
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And why? Is it the daily advent calendar with it's family activity and/or goodie? Is it the checking off of to-do lists? Is it the shopping on top of the shopping you've already done for things nobody needs?<br />
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Nope. It's because they DON'T do any of that stuff. They just coast along enjoying whatever comes their way. Dreaming of goodies and toys and fun.<br />
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Now, are any of of these Pinterest-y/ Facebook-y activities bad? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!<br />
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If you want to do it, go nutty! Be a Super-Pinterest-Woman. Make that garland! Do your advent calendar! Bake 4 dozen of 12 different cookies! Do a whole darn gingerbread village! Host a both a family AND friend party... on the same weekend! I've had years like that!<br />
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This year, not so much apparently.<br />
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This year I've felt the call to slow down. To be present with both my husband and child. To meet their needs (not what I feel they should have, based on glossy magazine covers designed by a team of stylists) when all they really need is me. Sane, relaxed, and providing a peaceful place to be.... and homemade hot chocolate with marshmallows.<br />
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I'm not saying we're having PB&J's for Christmas dinner. I'm saying it's gonna be a pre-prepped, shove in the oven, two crockpots running kind of Christmas. It's gonna be a popsicle stick ornament kind of Christmas. It's gonna be use what we already have for decorations kind of Christmas. It's gonna be going under budget kind of Christmas. It's gonna be less doing and more being. And that's OK.<br />
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Although my intentions of what Christmas should be is a bit more polished and perfect... It's not what it will be. It's messy and imperfect... and mine. And exactly the way God wanted it to be. <br />
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My intentions my be good, but getting to that perfect Southern Living look sure can be hell. On everyone.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-87004972166498877082014-11-24T19:11:00.001-08:002014-11-24T19:11:03.762-08:00Why We HomeschoolAbout four-five years ago, long before we knew how our child was wired, I came across this little video.... and it floored me. Stopped me in my tracks. Not because of what Sir Ken Robinson said, not because of the entertaining illustrations.... but what God told me the moment it was over.<br /><br />
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"You will be a homeschooling family."<br /><br />
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See, I had no choice in the matter. He said it, and even though some days it scares the snot out of me, most of the time it is truly the most rewarding part of being a parent. Watching her learn to read and write and do number sentences and about the world around her is like watching her be born all over again a hundred times a day.<br /><br />
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So yes. We homeschool so we can instill our values in our child. We homeschool because of the way our child learns. We homeschool because a 1:1 teacher/child ratio is much better than a 1:25-30. We homeschool because we want to build up her strengths and shore up her weaknesses. We homeschool because we want to educate the whole child, not just the parts that can be measured by standardized testing. We homeschool because she is an amazingly intelligent, creative, articulate, eager to learn child and we did not want to give that gift to anyone who may choose to crush it to fit their mold of what she should be instead of loving her for who she is.<br /><br />
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But the number one reason we homeschool is that the system is broken and we can't sit around waiting for it to be fixed.<br /><br />
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*- As you can see the problem is with the system, not the teachers. I love me some teachers. Some of my greatest homeschooling resources come from teachers. A good portion of teachers are handcuffed as to what they can do. I see that, we all see that. Please don't send your union rep after me.<br /><br />
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**- If you can you should totally watch "Waiting for Superman" and "Class Dismissed". Both are required watching for those who are homeschooling or thinking of homeschooling.<br /><br />
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***- If you choose not to homeschool please, please, please don't feel guilty reading this. I very rarely get on my homeschooling soapbox. Mostly because I don't want anyone to feel like they "should" homeschool. It's not for every family. That's fine. It's not a mark of a good mother or a promise of a smarter child.... You do what is best for your family because that's who God gave you.<br /><br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-21000901837553414602014-10-26T12:49:00.000-07:002015-01-19T12:50:47.528-08:00So what do you say after that? <br />
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"Hey, I walked through fire with Jesus beside me. I danced with depression for longer than I'd like to admit and fooled so many of you as we chatted over coffee. I lost a part of myself that I most likely won't ever be able to get back and I still walk a fine line between anger and acceptance over it.... SO HERE'S HOW I MADE THIS DOILY FROM ALL THE DUSTBUNNIES I FOUND UNDER MY COUCH!"<br />
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No.<br />
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Just, no.<br />
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So what do I say?<br />
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I say I'm thankful. Honest to goodness thankful.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-66895028149193124712014-10-22T11:22:00.001-07:002014-10-22T11:34:50.112-07:00Enough.The timing is right for this post*. I've written so many things but without this story, without this base... none of it makes sense. So I delete them and write on crash pads and body wash. I'm going out on a limb here. Gonna put some real stuff out here. Not looking for pity or sympathy or anything.... just giving out some real. -deep breaths-<br />
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This is the (lightly edited) testimony I shared with my MOPS group at the very beginning of the year. The one that started all this.... stuff. The real reason I wanted to start this. I mean, yay on the crash pads and body wash... but I'm nothing if not real. And real needs some brave to get it going. -deep breaths-<br />
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Hi, I’m Jessica. If we haven’t had a chance to really chat there are three things you need to know about who I am:<br />
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1- I have no filters. No, I HAD filters but I think they broke or need to be changed or something and I just don’t have time for that stuff right now… so I have no filters. Someone recently asked me if I listened to the words that come out of my mouth and I responded “NO. Then I’d be really upset with myself most of the time!” So forgive me. No filters.<br />
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2- You must understand that I don’t judge anyone’s mothering. No, Really. I have no time to judge you. I’m too busy judging myself. Every day. Every moment.<br />
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3- In the end I truly believe that every mother who is at least trying to be a mother, is doing the very best THEY can do for THEIR child. Because HE gave us our children knowing who WE are to our core.<br />
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I say all this so that you know nothing that follows comes from a place of judgment (not even for my own parents) but from a place that God has brought me to.<br />
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So back to my story....I was a happy surprise: the first child to a couple living in the mountains of Virginia.<br />
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Like most couples my parents wanted more than just one child. They wanted a real family. My parents made no secret of it and although I knew they loved me my little child mind took their endless “trying to conceive”, fertility treatments and in vitro fertilization appointments as “Jessica, you are not enough.”<br />
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It continued. The words that came from my parent’s actions were:<br />
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I wasn’t pretty enough.<br />
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I wasn’t skinny enough.<br />
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I wasn’t quiet enough.<br />
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I wasn’t creative enough.<br />
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I wasn’t athletic enough.<br />
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I wasn’t a good enough student.<br />
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I wasn’t a good enough friend.<br />
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I wasn’t a good enough daughter.<br />
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Not enough.<br />
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After 10 years of failed attempts and a couple of lost babies my parents finally had my brother in 1991……in the midst of my father’s infidelity.<br />
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And when my father finally decided to leave my Mom for another woman during Christmas of 1992 and I tearfully asked him to stay...If only for me...<br />
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His leaving said more than any words he could ever say: I wasn’t enough.<br />
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My parents divorced and My mother moved 11 year old me and my 1 year old brother up to Upstate New York to be closer to her family. A strange land of snow, cold and salt. I had never seen more than 3 inches of snow at one time and we had arrived the summer before the famed “Winter of ‘93”. It was a new world to say the least.<br />
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Even though we had a new life the record was the same:<br />
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I wasn’t enough.<br />
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And I believed it, whole heartedly.<br />
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Even after I accepted Christ and found my future husband (all in one summer. Woot-woot!) I still believed the track my parents gave me. Their actions continued to prove that I wasn’t enough.<br />
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I went on with life; graduated High School, got married. Got a job or two. Bought a house. And enjoyed life with just me and my husband for 7 whole years.<br />
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Then five years ago I had a child. My beautiful little girl. I tell her every day she is my gift from God because she is.<br />
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I prayed for a beautiful, smart, outgoing, fearless (believing it would be easier to reign in fearless-ness than teach confidence. HA!), compassionate, helpful, Jesus-loving little girl. I wanted her to be adventurous and receive whatever God had planned for her with open arms and a joyful heart. To have my eye color and lashes and Cor’s height and smile. And He gave it to me. All of it.<br />
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And in the weeks that followed I found I was finally enough.<br />
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I was post-baby glowing; I was pretty enough.<br />
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I snapped back to pre-pregnancy weight -10 pounds; I was skinny enough.<br />
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I could help my itty bitty one off to sleep with just a boob and a rocking chair; I was quiet enough.<br />
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I went from a 40 hour a week job to staying home with an infant who slept all. The. Time. I finally had time to craft to my heart’s content; I was creative enough.<br />
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And Athletic? Well, you can’t have it all..<br />
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I was a good enough Wife<br />
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I was a good enough Mother.<br />
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Finally I was enough. Motherhood made me enough.<br />
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So why just one? Why wouldn’t I do it all again?<br />
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In October of 2012 I lost a 6(ish) week pregnancy. It was hard, I cried but I was really OK. I named him October. I loved him (or her) and the little man (or lady) he (or she) would have been. I mourned for the thought of the child more than the child itself and found it easier to deal with at the time.<br />
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The second time we were so close to being “safe”. She was so much like her sister I knew she was a girl. It was love at first morning sickness all over again. I had named this one Sparrow. Her name came from my favorite hymn.<br />
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“I don’t know about tomorrow<br />
it may bring me poverty<br />
but the one who feeds the sparrow<br />
is the one who stands by me”<br />
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I knew THIS time Jesus was standing by me. THIS time would be it. That He knew I was enough to be a Mommy again. But nearly 12 weeks in I had lost her; 3 days before my 31st birthday.<br />
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And there I was, alone in the exam room, sobbing as I was losing my sweet fragile little Sparrow. Not enough all over again.<br />
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Not even for God… not enough to give me another child. Just one more little one, I wasn’t being greedy.<br />
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But the song continues:<br />
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“And the path that be my portion<br />
May be through the flame or flood<br />
But his presence goes before me<br />
And I’m covered with His blood.<br />
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Many things about tomorrow<br />
I don't seem to understand<br />
But I know who holds tomorrow<br />
And I know who holds my hand”<br />
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I am enough for Him. Enough for Him to go through all the rage and resentment and anger and sorrow and hate and everything I felt towards Him and every single pregnant woman around me popping out babies like gumball machines.<br />
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He was with me as I wept, as I slept away my afternoons because it was easier than functioning as an adult.<br />
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To where I know my mothering isn’t based on how full my quiver is. That I’m just as good of a mother with one little girl as Michelle Dugger is with her 18? 19? 31? Kids.<br />
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“Some Mommies have girls and some Mommies have boys.”<br />
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“Some Mommies have lotsa little boys and girls.”<br />
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“But you have just one Me.”<br />
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“Is that enough?”<br />
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Here was God looking at me through her little child eyes and saying: “Here’s what you prayed for. Every little detail in one little package that I made for you, just for you, before YOU were even born. Is it enough?”<br />
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*I had originally planned to post this on October 15th: National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day....but things didn't work out as I had planned. As they rarely do. Since 1988 the whole month has been dedicated to remembering our nation's lost children. I felt it was only right to stop in the middle of my daily madness and remember our two lost children, even if it wasn't on the 15th.</div>
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I know we are not alone in this. That we live life with many hurting Mommies and Daddies. It doesn't make it easier... It doesn't make it better... But maybe we can all heal a little stronger with each other's support. Or at least know we're not alone. Nothing is worse than suffering loss all on your own. Don't. Reach out. Find someone. Share your story.</div>
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And most importantly, if you're a Momma of a lost child and hear nothing else in what I've said hear this: It's. Not. Your. Fault. You ARE enough. </div>
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So, yeah, we pretty much have the best PT office on the face of the planet. They're just MADE to do what they do. The whole place rocks. Need a reference? Let me know. I'll point you in their direction. Anyway, we've been on a "crash pad wait-list" for months. MONTHS. Which is fine. We're not the only family that needs a crash pad. And our turn came up! </div>
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I've taken a break from the blogging because of it. I am no great speaker or writer or conduit from God. I don't have daily epiphanies that bring me closer to Him. I will freely admit that some days I read the Bible on autopilot. I have no great wisdom, I can't share what "works for me" because I haven't found what works for me yet.<br />
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Some days I have great patience and others I send the wild beast outside where she belongs.<br />
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Some days I accomplish everything on the to-do list and other days are considered a success if I even make a list.<br />
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Some days we have green smoothies for lunch and others I roll through a Wendy's.<br />
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Some days I rock and others I just plain suck.<br />
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Some days there just is no Joy in the day.<br />
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So there it is. The truth.<br />
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I see the pins on Pinterest. The pretty little signs to hang on our walls. To remind us.<br />
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And some days I can't. There's no joy to be found. Just survival. Then guilt from not finding joy.<br />
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Why should I be joyless? I'm blessed beyond measure: our little house and our little family. But these reminders of what I should feel make me feel guilty, once again less than, because I don't feel joy.<br />
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Behind these signs and the blogs I follow I see women, mamas, who seem to have it together. That plaster a perfectly veneered smile on their faces and sing-song-ily say "Choose Joy."<br />
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If I was a dessert I would be Pie. If I was a color I would be pink. If I was an animal I would be a tiger. If I was a Disney Princess I would be Tiana. If I was a president I would be John Adams. If I was a '30 Rock" character I would be Jack Donaghy. If I was a TV mother I would be Clair Huxtable OR Lorelai Gilmore (once again, depending on the quiz). </div>
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I think taking all these quizzes say one thing about me.... I need someone else to make choices for me. </div>
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I have about a million things I need to make decisions on and I just can't. </div>
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I look at the mountain of "I need to"s. I start at the bottom and my eyes travel up and up and up. I'm now looking 45 degrees from the horizon and this Everest keeps going up, shadowing any progress I may have made in the day. I don't stop, keep looking for the peak and now the back of my head has touched my neck and my balance is thrown off enough for me to take a step back but I have no view of the snowy summit curving over my head. I'm no longer looking up, but now looking behind me and there it is. The end of what needs to be done. And it crashes down behind me, swallowing me up and spitting me out onto the sweet sanctuary of my bed. </div>
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And nothing gets done it seems. I need someone else to make these decisions for me so I can just go do them. </div>
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"The Perfect Curriculum For Your Homeschooler Years K-12." - Answer three yes or no questions and you'll be linked to the perfect curriculum that are guaranteed board approved and guaranteed to work with your child. Complete with IEPs and weekly lesson plans. </div>
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"What To Make For Dinner: Gluten Free, Dairy Free, Clean Eating, Kid AND Husband Friendly Edition"- Use the simple multiple choice test format to tell the quiz what you have in your pantry/freezer and you'll have the perfect instagrammable meal your whole family will happily eat in 30 minutes or less.</div>
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"How Should YOU Say 'NO'?"- With a simple apology or with a plate of cookies BONUS RESULTS: how many 'guilt points' you'll acquire with each refusal. Use them wisely. Accumulate too many and you'll crash on the couch browsing nothing on your phone instead of spending time with your husband for an entire evening.</div>
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"Exact Color Coordinating Swatches For Your Home" - Using information like your favorite song, yout top 10 pins and name of your first pet this quiz will give you the perfect color swatches for every room in your home. This simple coat of paint will transform your 1200 square foot home into the next HGTV Dream Giveaway Home.<br />
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"What Netflix Show Should You Binge On Next?"....... Actually, I'm good. I got this one down.<br />
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Bottom line is this. The answers to my life questions are not gonna be on Facebook. Ever. My life is not going to be enriched by finding out what 80's Cartoon Show I am... Even if it is "The Snorks".<br />
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I need to shut down my phone and walk away. And just do stuff. And not turning on the computer stuff.....<br />
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I need to make a list and start knocking stuff off of it. I need to set realistic time tables to get stuff done. I need to put some stuff that I want to do just because I want to do it on there. I need to lay off pinterest because I have 2,500+ pins and there is no way I'll be able to even do a quarter of the stuff on it. I need to do that thing that I want to do and buy the stuff for it... because what's one more failure on the list? This could be the thing! It could be MY thing!<br />
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This past week in church the topic was Emotional Health and my husband and I gave each other a knowing look when Pastor said "Some of us have small emotions and some of us have big emotions" (paraphrased). Our daughter has big emotions....BIG emotions.<br />
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If that's her SPD or her personality, I don't know. All I know is that she needs to get a light coat of teflon if she's gonna get through this world in one piece. So we work on it. So very hard. We have social stories, role playing, games, you tube videos... you name it, we do it. (We got our own mini PT/OT office in our living room... dining room... school room....Ok let's be honest. HOUSE!)<br />
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Her: "Talk to them first and then go get an adult to help if it doesn't work."<br />
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Her: " 'That's OK. I don't care.' and then walk away."<br />
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The floor fell out from under me. "It's OK."?! Why was it OK? It's OK for one's feelings to be hurt? It's OK for someone to say or do something mean to you personally and just walk away? This wasn't new advice. This was the advice I was given as a child. "Just walk away." but how many hurts from my own childhood am I still carrying with me today? Too many to count. No. For some reason I knew this was another one of those moments that would make or break the woman my little one was meant to be.<br />
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Me "NO. That's NOT what you say."<br />
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Me: "No. Your feelings are important and matter. You should be able to share with someone when they hurt your feelings in a kind way: '_______, I want to be friends with you but when you do that it hurts my feelings. Can you please stop?' Let's practice it."<br />
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Me: "Baby, what's wrong?"<br />
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Her: "You listened to me. You heard me."<br />
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Then I started tearing up. She just needed someone to <u>hear</u> her. To tell her her feelings <u>matter.</u> To help her express her feelings in a calm, safe way. That she was important. That her feelings were valid and deserved to be heard and accounted for.<br />
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He said, "Why are you getting migraines all of a sudden?"<br />
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It was clear as day now. My migraines have been appearing every 2-3 days since I received an email One laced with guilt and accusations and passive aggression. I had grabbed onto a ball of pain, curled up around it and held it close to my chest, curling up into a fetal position, wrapped around the small ball of ugly... letting it weigh me down and refusing to let it go.<br />
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I sat down this morning to deal with the email. I wrote something kind but making sure my feelings were clear and would not be lost in translation. I'm hoping for a migraine free-day, we shall see... but at least I know I was heard. Maybe not by the recipient of the email but at least by the God of the universe.<br />
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See, little girl had a batman phase. I don't think it's 100% over, but it's not as pronounced as it used to be. So when she got a batman shirt for Christmas she was excited. Now, it's passed over every morning for skirts and dresses. So I thought a batman-dress would be a perfect solution to keep the item in circulation.<br />
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Once you've got yourself a large fabric tube you attach that to the smaller shirt, right sides together. You can baste the skirt to the top to give it a ruffled look. You can pleat it and pin it so you have little darts where you want it.... do whatever you want. I'm betting that if you're still reading you have a basic grasp of sewing on a machine. Most everyone else has checked out right now. </div>
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And I was all.... Dude, chill. You sent me an offer targeted to those with babies. I don't have one. No biggie. I get all kinds of spam for "performance enhancing" drugs and I don't have anything to... ummm..... enhance.<br />
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People are having babies. It's expected.<br />
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I'm not. That's life.<br />
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No matter if I had 1 more, 5 more or 10 more.... my baby-makin' days were bound to come to an end. And for the foreseeable future, they have.<br />
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Am I sad about it? Yes.<br />
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Am I happy about it? Yes.<br />
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It is what it is. Feeling those tip-toeing around the fact that my boobs are purely decorative at this point of my life is worse than knowing that when my daughter grows out of her clothes I truly have no reason to keep them. (Not that it stops me from keeping a few items here and there.) I'm aware of the position I'm in. I'm aware what I'm missing out on... but this is what I have. </div>
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Yesterday I made some body wash. This is a project I've wanted to do for some time but I've had some epic fails in the past. With a little bit of research I found it's all in the soap you start out with.<br />
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Do I like it? I LOVE IT!</div>
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24 hours later.... look at that high quality body wash! </div>
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That ain't no Suave body wash!</div>
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It's DOVE Body Wash!!!</div>
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Rating: Another win!!! If you like body wash and don't wanna dole it out in little paper cups to the family like I've contemplated, this is for you! Like I said, the hardest part is grating the soap. You can do this!!!<br />
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Extra bonus win: Your kitchen will smell nice and soapy clean for at least 24 hours..... I'll let you know when it fades!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-4360035988631828142014-05-09T10:50:00.002-07:002014-05-09T11:57:00.415-07:00Garage Sale-ing (or Teaching Your Child How Not to go in Debt)The trees are budding, the tulips blooming and dandelions are plentiful.... Spring has sprung in our corner of the world! People are cleaning out their homes and it's Garage Sale season!<br />
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This morning I took my little girl to her first real neighborhood Garage Sale, not as a spectator but as a shopper! To make math real I doled out five one dollar bills. We talked about how each dollar was equal to four quarters OR 10 dimes OR 20 nickels. Honestly, I had no idea that $5 would buy so much! (Or that so many senior citizens would just give things to her for being so cute with her little purse. So much for the math lesson.)<br />
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She got one of every garage sale category; stuffed animal- check, books- check, craft kits- check, outdoor toys- check, ziplock bag filled with odds and ends from a bigger, more elaborate play set- check...... she was having. a. ball!<br />
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Her last and most expensive purchase, for a whole dollar, was a Polly Pocket car that was obviously broken. Even though I pointed that out to her she insisted that she wanted it more than anything in the world and paid with her very last dollar. Within 5 minutes she looked at me and sobbed "It's not a great toy. It doesn't work at all." tears starting down her face.<br />
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I felt for her. I truly did. How many times have I bought something and was immediately hit with buyer's remorse. From little things like the fruity gum at the checkout that went waxy once the flavor ran out or a shirt on clearance that seemed OK but looks kinda <i>meh</i> now I have it at home... To big purchases like the SLR camera I bought under pressure when that electronics store went out of business at the mall that really isn't user friendly and now, two years later, I could have bought a Canon or Nikon for the same price... or my very first car that I bought on my very own: A '92 Chevy Lumina that was a BOAT but burst into flame less than 2 months into ownership. (After spending the same amount of money I paid for it to fix the alternator, starter and head gasket.)<br />
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But what did I want to teach her in this lesson in money and choices and frugality? I mean, I had a few dollar bills in my pocket. I could have just handed one over to her and it wouldn't have made a dent in my shopping plans. If I really wanted to I could have walked back to that house and told the seller that they sold a bum toy to a little girl and, I don't know, gotten her dollar back or exchanged it for another toy.( I mean, what kind of person sells a BROKEN toy at a garage sale?!?!? Ok, breathe in- breathe out. I'm OK. I'm OK...) Either way the tears would stop and I could go on with the happy morning.<br />
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For some reason this seemed like a big lesson to her broken heart. (One I wish I had learned waaaaay before I bought that Lumina.)<br />
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I sat on some random person's front lawn with her little head on my shoulder and broken toy in her lap. She wailed for a bit and I just held her in her broken moment as people walked by and stared at the sweaty woman with the weeping child on her lap. The sweaty woman whose shirt exclaimed "Stay At Home ROCKSTAR".... I was not feeling like a Rockstar at the moment. I wanted to crawl up into a ball and die.<br />
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Once her breaths evened out I smoothed back the hairs plastered with sweat to her forehead. I explained that she made a bad purchase. How I gave her advice on what to do and she made her own choice and sometimes they come with their own consequences. That we need to not buy what our heart wants in the moment but to "stop, think and cho-o-oose". (Credit: Daniel Tiger)<br />
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"Momma, I should have listened to you."<br />
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"Yeah, I know you feel that way."<br />
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"I was foolish."<br />
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"It's OK. It happens. To everyone, even grownups."<br />
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"Mom, I'm never going to make a bad purchase again. I'm gonna stop, think and cho-o-oose next time."<br />
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<i>Can I have that in writing?</i><br />
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We continued shopping, finding the motherlode of scholastic books. I went SHOPPING for our home library! At that same sale they had TONS of little girl toys, priced to sell. Little girl looked them over, played with a few and remarked to me as we left that house. "Momma, I ran out of money. I couldn't buy anything there, my heart wanted stuff but I knew I had no more money."<br />
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"Was it hard?"<br />
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"A little bit."<br />
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"I'm proud of you for making good choices."<br />
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.... and we literally skipped back to the car.<br />
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All this started as a Facebook Post but the story went on and on and on. I don't know what led me to share this slice of our day. But there it is. A moment of our real.<br />
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A moment of perspiration, tear, and snot soaked ugly turned into a learning moment for my little one. Reminded that if we can pray in the moment for the strength to stay cool we can turn it around. We can get back to that happy moment we had just left and all be a little better for it.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-14482837140590832072014-05-05T17:41:00.002-07:002014-05-05T17:51:50.803-07:00Liquid Dish Detergent (Borax free, no weird ingredients)I spent a good hour pouring over recipes and grocery store websites. Picking and choosing meals everyone in the family would eat that were a little bit more nutritious than pasta and canned marinara sauce. Planning meals that could stretch from dinner to lunch and hopefully a bit to go in the freezer for later, too. I searched multiple grocery stores for the best choices in produce. I cleaned, cut up and divvied up veggies and fruits, putting them in individual packets for grab and go snacks. I had breakfasts, lunches AND dinners planned for a full 5 days.<br />
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I was feelin' pretty good about myself. I was all struttin' around the kitchen: "Who's that Proverbs 31 wife? Yup, you know it! Don't be hatin'. I'm just followin' scripture, boyyyeee!"<br />
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Then it was time to do dishes. With no dishwasher detergent.<br />
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-Pffffffffftttttttt-<br />
(That's the air escaping my personal Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade balloon.)<br />
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THEN I remembered that someone on Facebook had recently posted a recipe for dishwasher detergent. Scrambling, I looked it up but one of the ingredients was citric acid which I didn't have and Borax which is..... -sigh- in my opinion it's good for some things but not for others: Laundry soap? yeah. Tub scrub? sure. Dish soap that may, theoretically, end up in my, and my family's, digestive tract? can we find something else?<br />
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So a little Google search found me a recipe with ingredients I had on hand and no borax... and off I went making some dish detergent.<br />
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So we got a win here! This is my new go-to dishwasher detergent! No borax (which really isn't good for washing dishes what with the fact that it's usually a main ingredient in ant bait), no citric acid, no other weird "I gotta go back to Wegman's.... again!" ingredients. </div>
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Rating: You should totally do this! Today! Go turn of your computer/mobile device and make it, you'll be happier for it! (Happy bubbles, remember?!)<br />
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This week is fairly simple: Tote Bag Marble Mazes.</div>
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Simple stitched "mazes" with a marble inside that you push through, using your fingers</div>
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If you have a child that needs extra work on their fine motor skills or you're a parent that would like to have your child keep quiet for a bit, this is a great craft for you to put together. You can find similar items on Etsy for about $10 + shipping but with a little time and minimal effort you can have three for about $1.50-...... So you're saving $25.50 + shipping. Just sayin'.</div>
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Mini-Tote Bags (I found these cute little tote bags at the Dollar Tree.) 2/$1</div>
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Marble (I already had some from another project. But you can buy a bag at the dollar store and have enough to make one for every niece, nephew, and friend's kids on your Christmas list.... for the next 3 years)</div>
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Yaaaaaay!</div>
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A lot, a lot.<br />
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Almost twice as many views as my previously highest viewed post.<br />
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That leads me to believe one (or a combination) of the following:<br />
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1- Some of you shared that post with a friend who has been struggling with their own child's.... stuff. Or someone shared this blog with you.<br />
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2- You've been around my child and after reading it the first time you had a flashback to a recent event and thought "Is that why that... Oh, yep. That's why <u>that</u> happened. It's on that list-y thing-y she posted. Glad I checked it.... again."<br />
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a.) She's a good friend and mom. I'm happy to walk alongside her as she<br />
figures this thing out with the help of professionals.<br />
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b.) She's using this made up diagnosis to justify her own bad parenting.<br />
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c.) She's a nutter.<br />
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3- You're going through the list yourself and thinking "Hmmmm. Is that why my kid does that thing? Maybe I should talk to his teacher/his doctor/a friend about this."<br />
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4- You've called CPS and need good hard data to record one of my many negligent abuses.<br />
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5- You ARE CPS and need good hard data to record one of my many negligent abuses.<br />
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So I feel I should address these theories I have about these possible reasons for the explosion. (That and I had Starbucks after 7:30 and I can't sleep.)<br />
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1- Hi! If you're new, nice to meet you! I'm new at this whole thingie and have no idea what I'm doing but I'm happy to share what I do (and ultimately what I don't) know about SPD. Especially our family's own special brand of SPD. I won't just post about that but it's a big part of my life right now. For the first time both us parents are on the same page and it's an exciting time for us; to finally understand our daughter how she's wired and how to help her navigate life.... together. As a team.<br />
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If you're not new, thanks for holding in there.... and visiting. A lot. I've gotten lots of love from you and am thankful for all the warm fuzzies. That being said, I cannot share all the comments (or any of the comments from the previous post) on the blog because her name was used in them. Right now I'm not publishing her name on this open blog so that 1) I can leave this blog open for Moms who many not know me personally. 2) She can know if a prospective school or employer Googles her name (if they still do that in the future) it will not link back to this dorky blog her mom did. If you post a comment I will see it, be thankful for you and your friendship... but not publish it if it has her name. (I'm thinking I need to be like one of those cool blogger Mamas that gives her kid a nickname. I'll put that on the list of things I need to do. Yep, number 2,731.)<br />
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2- Yep, that's why she melted down at that playdate. It was just too much stuff for her to handle. Hopefully we'll have a better time next time. Whatever happened, we're working on it. Trust me.<br />
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a.) I love you more than you know. I keep your posts and comments<br />
in a little pocket of my heart to be taken out and looked over again<br />
and again. It keeps me sane to know that I have friends who don't<br />
think I am insane.<br />
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b.) I WISH my bad parenting caused this, because all I would need is a<br />
visit from Super Nanny and my life would be "normal". But it's not.<br />
It's real and if you want to see the therapy in action and the results<br />
we get when we have PT (or don't have PT) you're welcome to<br />
come over any time.... because we're working on it ALL. THE.<br />
TIME. Seriously, it took her 3 weeks to get her feet into a bin full<br />
of lentils without reacting like a contestant on Fear Factor. Tell me<br />
how my parenting could have caused that.<br />
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c.) I wish you all the best in life. Goodbye.<br />
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3- I am always ready to talk. (Really. Have you met me?) Always. If you have that nagging feeling in your gut that this is something your child is dealing with and you don't know what to do next let me know. We'll get Starbucks and stay up waaaay to late talking about it. I'll help you in any way I can, I promise.<br />
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4- If you want the good stuff come over riiiiight before nap time. When she's good and stimmed out from a busy morning and is too tired to know what her body needs next. Yeah. That's the good stuff.<br />
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5- Ilovemychild. I'magoodmother. Pleasedon'ttakeheraway.<br />
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All that being said, I'm kinda having a bit of anxiety that I put this out there.<br />
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I'd watch the numbers go up every time I checked the computer and I'd think about what I wrote and I'd be all..<br />
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I mean, my most viewed post currently is how wacked out I think my child is. Great parenting, Jess. Good job.<br />
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I had told someone that knew early on about her SPD about my post and she said "I didn't think you wanted people to know." Which was true. I had specifically told her not to tell specific people anything about any of this. I wanted to keep this kinda close to my chest. Sharing it with those I thought needed to know and that's all.<br />
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Sunday School Teacher- Yeah, she should know.<br />
Friends that we have playdates with- Yeah, them too.<br />
That judgy family member who will be sure to send me countless emails about how I'm wrong.- Nope.<br />
That one friend of a friend that I met at that one baby shower 4 years ago.... Nah, she doesn't need to know.<br />
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But why? Why did I want to keep that to myself?<br />
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The truth is I was embarrassed. For goodness sakes we only have one and we broke it, twice.<br />
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I was angry. He's only giving us one. (He's made that clear as day.) We couldn't have a "good" one? We had to have a "hard" one? Really?<br />
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I didn't want other people's judgement on me. Everyone is clearly better at this than I, or at least they're gonna think it.<br />
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I didn't want other people's judgement on her. You know, the weird girl. That has the thing. The thing where she's unstable and hard to be around. Let's not invite her over because she's just too much. Why don't you invite that sweet little girl that sits quietly when she's supposed to with the headband on her head where it's supposed to be.... not across her forehead.<br />
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But <u>ultimately</u> I didn't want it to be her identity. I didn't want people to see right past all the good stuff and just see the rough patches. Because there's a lot of good stuff and I don't want anyone to miss it while we're all waiting for her to have a sensory fueled meltdown:<br />
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She's hysterically funny, deeply compassionate, insanely smart. She's fearless and daring.<br />
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She's convinced it's her job to exercise our 12+ year old cat by sitting 3 feet away from her and gesturing for the cat to sit next to her, only to get up and move another 3 feet away so the cat "can live a longer and more healthy life".<br />
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She's eager to learn every day (maybe not for the length of time I hope for but at least once every day).<br />
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She vacuums, feeds the kitties, makes her bed, and sets the table for dinner as a matter of course, because it's how she helps the family.<br />
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She's always singing or humming something around the house, filling it with her own special music.<br />
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She wakes up chattering away, narrating her life as she does her morning chores. Usually reminding herself to be quiet mid-sentence because "someone might be sleeping".<br />
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She constantly prompts herself (and others) using the little songs from "Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood".<br />
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She loves people that will talk to her like a person, usually over sharing one of our many hospital stays or doctor visits... only to catch herself and say something to the effect of "How are YOU doing today?"<br />
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But most importantly she loves Jesus and prays more than any adult I know, soaking up whatever scripture we read to her like a sponge. (Seriously, I'll be looking back in the car at her with her head down and hands folded and ask her "Wat'cha doin'?" and she'll say "Talking to God. Hold on, Mom. I gotta finish my conversation.")<br />
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So do I regret "over sharing"? No.<br />
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I regret if I've painted her in a way that may lead someone to believe she is a uncontrollable brat that has regular tantrums for not getting what she wants when she wants it. (Both in writing and in person. I know I just caught myself doing it again tonight when I jokingly apologized to someone that had been in one of our many failed attempts at finding a "fit" if my daughter had beat up their child. Seriously, why do that? If I make such an effort to never speak that way about my husband in public then why do I not extend the same courtesy to my child? If you know me in real life you are free to slap me if I ever do that within your hearing again.)<br />
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I regret not standing up for her sooner and allowing what I think people think of her affect how I parent.<br />
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I regret not snuggling her more and being her safe place in the past when she just couldn't be herself at that moment.<br />
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I regret not pushing for the help I knew she needed from deep in my gut sooner.<br />
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I regret.... gosh I could go on forever!<br />
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We all could.<br />
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But over sharing? No, I think I shared just enough. And I'll let that be that for a while.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-89104630137849557342014-03-21T06:42:00.000-07:002014-03-21T09:51:49.087-07:00Our lives are sensational!No, really. Sensational. And have been for the last 2 1/2 years.<br />
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I knew something was up. My mommy senses were tingling. We spent so much time NOT doing things. We tried so many things that just didn't "fit" our daughter.<br />
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Our first Epic failure was reading time at the Library. She was a good book reader at home so why not at the Library? A little book, a little craft, a few friends. This seemed right up her alley! Nope. After ripping apart the felt board to lick all the pieces, standing directly in front of the book the entire time so she could see, and throwing the craft across the room because the black marker was out of ink (as most kid accessible markers are) we left. In tears. I was waiting for CPS to come to my door those following days.<br />
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I've pulled my daughter out of gymnastics, kindersports, mommy and me gym and swim classes. We had a season where playgrounds were off limits because she just couldn't keep her hands to herself.<br />
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She's been kicked out of nursery<u><b>S</b></u>. After I got our second "she's a bit aggressive for the room" from our second MOPS group at our second church I vowed never to go back to MOPS again. (I'm now on steering of my own church's MOPS group so that tells you how that worked out.)<br />
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So nothing fit. But why? She's smart, funny, kind and considerate little girl. Until she's not.<br />
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Not only did nothing fit activity-wise but nothing fit clothes-wise either. Tags were too much. The seams of the socks had to be just right. Beautiful dresses sent from out of town relatives were too itchy and scratchy. We lived in knit fabrics. Long tunic tops and stretchy pants.... jeans only if they had elastic waist.<br />
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Developmentally she was hitting every milestone on time and even several of them ahead of time. She loved being read to, she could strike up a conversation with anyone about anything, her basic math skills were growing as expected and she could spit facts about octopi and volcanoes and sharks and trains right back to you at 100 miles per hour.<br />
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We chalked it up to "She's just so smart. An only child. We treat her like an adult, she acts like an adult so why should we expect her to be a kid around kids?!" I mean, we disciplined her more than anyone else we knew disciplined their child. (For goodness sakes at her 3rd birthday party she spent most of the party in time out!) We read "Shepherding a Child's Heart", "Bringing up Girls" AND "Bringing up Boys" and spent time in several parenting seminars including the Nurtured Heart approach. We did everything we could to "beat it out of her" (CPS- that's a joke. Ha-ha..... get it? Pleasedon'ttakemychildaway!) and "hug it out of her".<br />
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But honestly, we had other medical issues to worry about. She had a kidney that was non-functional, ureters that were not placed where they needed to be and her bladder needed to be re-constructed. That was the year she was 4. The whole year it seems.<br />
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Until the beginning of fall. When it was apparent she wasn't going to grow out of toe walking. So we called her pediatrician who referred us to a pediatric orthopedic surgeon who referred us to physical therapy (to stretch her calf muscles because they were too tight).<br />
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Within 5 minutes her PT was telling me things about my child that I had never shared with her or anyone else. Random little silly things. Things that she would only know if there was a diagnosis for my child and other children like her. Sensory Processing Disorder*.<br />
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So she's not a bad kid, not disobedient, not "not listening", not aggressive, not mean, not a jerk, not stupid, not rough, not a picky eater, not destructive, not clumsy, not forgetful, not a drama queen. She has SPD. Her brain can't process the input that her body is receiving. Which is frustrating and painful for her.... and us.<br />
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The good news is that I was right. The bad news is that I was right.<br />
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This means our life is different. We won't be able to attend every birthday party let alone let her have one of her own right now. We can't do gymnastics right now. Or dance. Or Awana.... right now. Playdates are... progressing, but definitely not our strong suit. But we do it, and are thankful for those friends that allow our stuff into their homes and have learned to walk away from those that can't accept our life where it is now.<br />
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She's happy. We have fun as a family, being close and doing fun things. We're thankful that her SPD allows her full night sleeps, to go out in public with us, and to eat balanced meals. She has a grandmother who adores her and pretty much thinks she's perfect. Our daughter gets to spend one night a weekend at her house and I get to have <strike>a drink</strike> a break. We are blessed, please don't think I don't see that.<br />
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Right now I ask for grace. Not just for us, for any child that looks completely normal from the outside but inside has their own bundle to deal with. Give their Mommies and Daddies eye contact and a smile. Reach out to them. Let them know it's OK. Because the meltdown you see out in the world may be the tail end of the biggest success of the week.<br />
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For the too big child in the grocery cart. Because the cart may be the only safe space in the expanse and noise and business of Wegman's<br />
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For the child that hugged yours a little too hard. Because they LIKE being hugged that hard so why wouldn't yours?<br />
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For the child complaining of sore feet when they've sat on their bum all day long. Because pain for them registers differently than pain for you.<br />
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For the child not listening to the teacher. Because they can smell the ammonia cleaner in the air, the sound of the other kids talking, the flicker of fluorescent lights, the noise from the hall as parents drop their kids off, the scrape of the tag on the back of their neck, someone's thick flowery perfume, the cars driving by the window sending a strobe-like glare across the room, the clock ticking and then the teacher being too loud and too close in her personal space.<br />
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For the child that just can't.<br />
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*Right now we're in the process of getting her evaluated. This is a looooong process and quite a waiting list. Once it's done and diagnosed a whole world of services and groups and opportunities will open up.We'll get there, I know. In the meantime we have PT services as long as we want them. And boy, I want them.<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2771171831128453842.post-62571198743805305792014-03-01T18:54:00.001-08:002014-03-01T19:07:16.513-08:00Assume the Crash Position!<br />
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"So how do you feel about your daughter turning five next week?"<br />
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A simple question over brunch. One I wasn't quite ready to answer. I haven't spent a lot of time thinking about it. Five has come out of nowhere.<br />
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The last four birthdays I savored and treasured every "last ____ as a ___ year old". I wept over clothes grown out of. I stored some favorite forgotten toys in a bin under my side of the bed. I made handprints, footprints and photographed her sweet smile.<br />
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This year I have assumed the crash position. Truly I hadn't even realized her birthday was coming up until 10 days before her birthday. Ten. Days.<br />
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I had a list of things needin' doin' and not much time left to do them in. Things to be made. Things to be bought. An overnight away to book. Family dinners to schedule celebrating her birthday.... and then finally maybe some friend time, maybe?<br />
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There's been no time to sit and stare and watch her change from four to five. My camera(s) have a fine layer of dust on them as my iPod is always in my pocket and always ready to take grainy, second-rate shots. Any handprints in recent memory have been washed off walls.<br />
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No savoring. No treasuring.<br />
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Until today.<br />
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For the first time in over three years my little one fell asleep in my arms. To say this is a small miracle is no exaggeration.<br />
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This child moves. At all times. In all directions. Always.<br />
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When she sleeps, she sleeps hard. On her own. Without another living thing distracting her from dreams.<br />
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So when the weepy child came into our bedroom as I was having some quiet time I put my stuff away, invited her to lay on the bed, and snuggled under the down comforter. The tears subsided, the gasps for air gave way to steady breaths. Slowly I watched as she gave in to the exhaustion painted all over her face. In a matter of minutes the thumb slipped from her lips and she was done.<br />
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I, the big spoon, was able to just watch her, the little spoon, exist. To appreciate the form of the little person who was starting to drool on my arm.<br />
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So much of her is still baby: the soft curve of her cheek, the long eyelashes fluttering with dreams, her lips searching for her lost thumb, the back of her hands dotted with toddler knuckle dimples...<br />
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Yet, I can see the young girl she is edging into in those very same features. Because the baby years are well and over.<br />
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Baby-dom was beautiful. It wasn't everything I dreamed of, for sure, but it had it's own rhythm that I loved with every beat of her heart. I fell into every moment of it, let it swallow me whole, nearly drowning with her need for me.<br />
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Now I'm on the other side and truly I feel I can breathe again.<br />
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Yes, she still needs me. I'm not quite retired, yet. I know. But something about the urgency of a nursing, diapered infant is completely different from a child needing to snuggle with her Mama.<br />
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And in this moment I know I'm OK with it. That as much as I close the door to that beautiful soft stage of life that faintly smells sweetly of breast milk and baby poo, another beautiful stage is next.<br />
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I'm thinking sweaty hair and too much handsoap?<br />
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I've been bummed out lately. No, I'm gonna be honest. I've been flat out depressed. And when I say flat out depressed I mean flat. out.<br />
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As in I was <u>flat</u> and I was <u>out</u>.<br />
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My depression was so bad I was stressed out over being depressed. To the point I made myself sick. My stress had caused my good bacteria to call it quits and the bad bacteria to take over everything. I finally broke down went to urgent care (being completely disconnected to my body, completely sure it was strep throat) and got a prescription because my kefir smoothies just weren't cutting it.<br />
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Which of course made me more stressed ("For goodness sakes I can't even keep a suitable environment for BACTERIA to thrive in what makes me think I can ___________________?!") which made me more depressed.<br />
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So here I was: tongue swollen so much I couldn't close my mouth properly, I couldn't eat anything thicker (or more distinctive) than applesauce and I was doing nothing. Absolutely nothing. For days.<br />
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Then He woke me up at 5 am. There was no Earthly reason I should have been awake that early that day. I tried going back to sleep but nothin doin' when He wants to talk to you.... And He needed to talk to me.<br />
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I'm sure you were aware of the books Beth Moore was giving away earlier this year. You know, 10-ish books that she was just handing out for free Kindle devices. Madness, I tell you. Facebook, the Mommy blogs, every Christian woman I know was all over that deal. Anyway, I was part of the madness. I got my books...<br />
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So I'm reading "Praying God's Word Day by Day"..... "reading" is more like it. Just being honest..... and I flip to that particular day: February 12th. This is what it says:<br />
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Reading on this is the scripture used for this particular day. The day I'm wide awake. As if I had just downed a medium french vanilla 2 and 2 from Dunkin' in 15 seconds flat awake at 5 am. </div>
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Crown of beauty instead of ashes.</div>
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Oil of gladness instead of mourning.</div>
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A garment of praise. Garment.</div>
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I had to put it on. I had to go in my closet, pick it out, squeeze into it (because with my depression comes a serious craving for the junky stuff), and put. it. on. No matter how uncomfortable it may be at first. Because like most of my spandex laced jeans it will stretch a bit and feel a bit more comfortable as the day goes on. </div>
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So that day I was gonna do it. I spiritually and physically got dressed. </div>
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I found my "thankful" journal à la Ann Voskamp and wrote everything I was thankful for: the silly stuff (cookie butter, warm slippers, a Wegman's less than a 3 minute drive away from my front door) the real stuff (a healthy little girl, a husband who loves me for who God made me, our home, a reliable car) and the Sunday School stuff (His saving grace, His enduring love for me, that I am a princess in His kingdom). I went on and on for pages and finally I felt it. The deep thankfulness of who He is and what He's done for me. Just for me. Only me. </div>
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I turned on KLove.... which is huge for me. I'm not 100% sold on KLove. I mean, who on Earth is that chipper in the morning? Nobody, that's who. Nope. I don't wanna hear that kind of saccharine sweetness until at least after 10 am. Shut it and play the music Kanklefritz. Of which about 1/4 of which I actually like on it's own musical merit...... but this time I didn't listen to be entertained. I listened as if it was part of my spiritual ensemble. </div>
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I cleaned. Oh boy, did I clean. Every room, every surface, every nook and cranny (what's a cranny?). And as the house straightened up so did I. I made it my mission to have the kitchen sink empty and shiny every moment I could. Laundry cycled through from hampers to machines and back into closets. No more did we share the dinner table with (clean) socks and undies. I went back to my daily vacuuming habit. My house was clean for nobody else but my little family. You could stop by this very second and I wouldn't need to make a mad dash around the house filling an empty laundry basket to stash in my closet in the time it takes for me to realize you're here to open the back door for you. Seriously. Stop in. Try me. </div>
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I started working out. Nothing fancy. Just some YouTube videos. Something to keep me <strike>sweating until I thought I was gonna throw up </strike> moving. Though I dread those 20 minute videos I look forward to that clarity and peace I get after I'm done. (At this point it may be about half an hour after I'm done but at least it comes.) </div>
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So there it is. My new wardrobe. Better than what Stacy and Clinton could shop for (What Not To Wear, anyone?) Some items were an easy buy. Some needed altering. Others I needed to step outside of what's comfortable and try a new style... but it's there. And I think it looks good on me.</div>
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****PSA: Depression is real. Depression is painful. Sometimes God can help you out of it. Other times He can help you get the medical help you need. It's different for every person and every scenario. If you begin to suspect your depression is more than "cabin fever" or "baby blues" please seek help. Tell your husband, tell your friends, tell your family. Then tell your doctor. It's OK to get the help you need to be the Mama your babies need. ****</div>
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From the nurse that brought us to the room to the hygienist and finally the Dentist himself. They each asked in turn:<br>
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"How's the thumb sucking?"<br>
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"Welllll...."<br>
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If you know my daughter personally and have spent any length of time with her I'm sure you've noticed her ambidextrous thumb sucking skills. It's a gift, really. A gift that must end for the sake of her teeth (and our orthodontic bill).<br>
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But I don't want it to end. This little girl, my only go-round with motherhood, is growing up and I just don't want to watch it happen anymore. I want her to forever curl up in my lap and suck her thumb as I rock her the in the last few moments of each day. I want to look back in the car and see her in the booster seat with one thumb in her mouth another on her ear as she dreams out the window. I want to know what that little "thuk-thuk-thuk" noise is when I check on her at night with my eyes unadjusted to the dark.<br>
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I had to let so much go already, can't I hold on to this last little bit of babyhood a little longer?<br>
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No? I know...<br>
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We have a strategy: a calendar that we put stickers on in hopes to earn a "thumb trophy" (her Dentist office will make a mold of her thumb and send it home with her) and the promise of a build-a-bear Rainbow Dash. Because she is a little girl after all.<br>
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She's doing very, very well. She catches herself and reminds herself that she's going to stop forever. Even after she gets her trophy. When I catch her not sucking when I know she usually would she bounces towards me with the slight remnant of her baby belly and her lengthening limbs exclaiming "I'm growing up! I hafta grow up! I can't stop!"<br>
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Like Wendy moving to the nursery she has to leave her childish things behind if she's to grow up.<br>
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Needless to say, she's taking it a lot better than I am.<br>
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Unless she really needs it. We've had a couple of meltdowns since the dentist. Nothing earth-shattering. Just crying, weeping, gnashing of teeth. Over TV time limit, over what's for dinner.... You know, typical kid stuff.<br>
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Then one afternoon I get this: "But MAMA! I CAN'T reset!!! I can't suck my mouth! Remember?!?!" (Her term for sucking her thumb, which makes the whole act of thumb sucking that much sweeter, right?!)<br>
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And in that moment my heart broke into a thousand pieces.<br>
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And I did the only thing I knew to do. I opened my arms, let her crawl into my lap and snuggled close to my chest, and I just sang. Little songs that we've sung for years. One after another Not stopping until the tears had ended, until her breathing slowed, until she just sat. Silent. No "thuk-thuk-thuk" sound.<br>
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I buried my face in her hair smelling of sweat and shampoo.<br>
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"Growing up is hard, but I know you can do this. You're a brave girl. You're a big girl. I believe in you. You can let this go."<br>
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I don't know if I was talking to her or to me... but she seemed soothed and bounced back to whatever imaginary world she was in earlier. Ugh. Growing up <i><b><u>is</u></b></i> hard. I knew it, I just thought I had a few more years before we had to start.<br>
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